Love Hunt

One of the biggest problems concerning dating is actually FINDING A DATE.

I know it's scary to venture out into the dating world when all of your closest friends already seem to have settled down with someone or are permanently locked up in the friend box.

So How Do You Meet Someone You Might Actually Like To Date? No one seems to be able to figure this out.

Clearly all of the places that you normally hang out at are not the right place to check. You have either been through all of the eligible singles there with no luck or you have just become bored with that scene entirely.

BUT it is important to go out to places that you enjoy if you are hoping to meet a potential date. This can help to ensure that the two of you have mutual interests in something that you would not mind doing again.

Hence, do not go anywhere so against the grain for you that you could not imagine yourself enduring it ever again. For example, going on a rock climbing adventure when you are terrified of heights and then attempting to hit on your climbing instructor will not work out pleasantly. Please...don't do that to yourself.

Do not misunderstand; it is okay to try new things.

For instance, if you have a mild interest in comic books, try going to a comic book convention and meet other people who share your interest. The thing to remember is that places like that are not only attended by die-hard fans, there are people there who might just be mildly interested in it like you.

Or if you really enjoy music, go to a concert, watch a live amateur show or go to a music store.

The chances of you meeting someone that you find interesting is much higher if you actually put yourself out there in places that you find to be interesting.

Guys, go steam your favorite jeans. Ladies, go dig up your favorite push-up bra. Someone is waiting for you to arrive . . .

You Broke Up With Me For WHO?!

Ever Break Up With Someone

then turn around a couple of months later and

find them Swapping Spit

with someone

Much Less Attractive Than YOU?

If you haven't:

Count yourself lucky because it is one of the most stomach sickening experiences known to man/woman.

And if it hasn't happened to you yet, it's bound to happen before your dating life expires.

So what consolation is to be given when this tragedy bestows you?

*Venting: this typically helps alleviate the pain.

Merely find a thick skinned, partially deaf friend

to express your lamentations. .

By some chance you do not possess such a friend or are still feeling vengenful post venting...

*Think About It: I suggest taking note of the fact that the only reason your ex-flame is

playing tonsil hockey with an unattractive person is because of the

emotional damage from losing you

has made him/her feel undesirable. And in this new person they feel attractive again---comparatively.

That explanation will at least help to build your ego back up---even if it's slightly inaccurate.

In the meantime, suck it up and try not to stress about it too much.

Even though you know you would be mad if she left you for

HIM >>>

Valentine's Day and Desire

When we were kids it was much easier to figure out what it was that we wanted. It was simple:
I like this and I want it---now!

And we went after what we wanted accordingly.

Just think back to those nights you won the argument for extra dessert...

You went for it and you got it!
Now..

You’ve got a crush. Do not be
SCARED
to go after what you want!

Ignoring Desire Will Leave You Lonely.

STOP DEBATING ABOUT IT.
Stop worrying about if you are going to enjoy a "new dessert." You will never know if you like it until you try it. And you have every right to enjoy something sweet.

Have a Good Valentine's Day...

One Valentine's Day I thought I was going to be facing a day of self-loathing and bitterness until a guy that I liked went after what he wanted.

"I like you and I would like to be with you. If you're not ready for that, I can wait, but I wanted to let you know..."

All of a sudden the gates were opened! I realized if I had done the same thing he had just done, I would not have been so miserable all of those days prior wondering if he liked me back or not.

So channel your inner three year-old and GO FOR WHAT YOU WANT!!

YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE. MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY.

Beauty vs. the Beast

The dating world is dog-eat-dog.

It used to be... that women could all turn and point their finger at men (those dogs!) for making dating so difficult.

Men:

• lie


• hide their emotions


• AND tend to have more sexual partners than clean socks

BUT..times have changed and many women can see themselves fitting this description more and more (just replace "clean socks" with "tubes of lip gloss"...see it now?).

Playing Victim:

Men I have dated have all asked the same questions about this. “What’s wrong with women these days?” they demand.

Many of us women have spent large portions of our dating life playing "the victim." During my time in this stage, I allowed men to abuse me emotionally and mentally while I held my breath for my happily ever after.

We have all found ourselves in a situation like that, interventions screeching to a halt with the cry . . . “But I love him!”

What has changed now is that we have dusted the dirt off our stilettos, covered our scars with foundation and put up a wall between men and our emotions. This makes it incredibly easy for us to do all of the same things to men that we have complained about before and level the playing field. My stories of the flip will have your jaw DROP.

The princess and the fire-breathing dragon have joined forces against Prince Charming, building a wall of fire between them.

I wonder how Sleeping Beauty will end now…